Why you should never say “you look tired”

So this whole post is about why you should never say “you look tired” to anyone- EVER. Some people might think this is a trivially thing but I will explain why it’s such a big thing.

I will start out with a picture that I took after driving a total of 8 hours in a day:

Am I tired in this picture? Absolutely- but not like zombie tired. It also doesn’t help that I have no makeup on.

So the night before I was educating some people on “How to live healthy on a budget” and got home late and worked a bit and went to bed at midnight. The next day I had to do all the driving; it was for my son and I and our Lyme disease. We go to a holistic doctor 4 hours away.  ANYWAYS- I have a busy life. A lot on my plate and I am tired because I choose to live my life to the fullest.

I have been told multiple times in my life “you look tired”. Which in my mind is “you look like crap.” I know people don’t mean this but in my mind they kind of do.

My response always wants to be – well- I am a mom, a business owner, a blogger, a wife, a friend, have 6 cats, 2 dogs, have been suffering from Lyme disease the last 6 years of my life, have a son that has been thru a lot and continues to, try to help as many people as possible and yes I go without enough sleep a lot of the time ( I have goals )- BUT it doesn’t help someone saying I look tired.

I don’t see any difference by someone saying to a person that is struggling with their weight- YOU LOOK FAT. Or someone that has acne to say- OMG YOU HAVE PIMPLES.

Everyone is struggling, everyone is tired in one fashion or another and you stating someone is tired is definitely not helping their day. If they are tired or not.

Better options:

Whats going on in your life?

How are you today?

Or ANY compliment like – love your outfit, did you get a haircut?, ANYTHING else.

Just a friendly reminder to people to make our world much easier to live in- its hard enough without someone telling you- YOU LOOK TIRED 🙂

 

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